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all the mothers i've been

a poem

Shannon K. Evans
May 12, 2023
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“Take and Eat” lino block print by Ben Wildflower. Used with artist’s permission.

a first baby demands a mother find god-within-her 
in the silence and in the solitude. 
this breasted god, 
the one who says, “this is my body, broken for you,” 
this god emerges 
from the thorny wilds of loneliness. 
hours upon hours with 
a hungry mammal at her chest, she cracks 
and bleeds and cries; sitting gingerly, 
ever aware of her stitched-together bottom,
ever afraid that at any moment 
her now unfamiliar body might 
just
shatter.

billions have gone before her and of them 
a handful seek to comfort her, but 
in the end her path must be walked 
alone. 
in the dead of night, 
when the world around her sleeps;
in the blinding daylight, 
when the world around her hums; 
she exists only in the shelter of walls and 
a roof that closes in 
as her little one sucks life from her body. 
a mother is born, a yellow haired 
girl-turned-woman with god in her empty belly.

a (second, third, fourth) fifth baby 
demands a mother find god-within-her
in the crowd and in the chaos. 

this breasted god, 
the one who says, “this is my body, broken for you,”
this god emerges 
from the clatter that never quiets. 
day after day she swims 
through the sea of needs to find the fresh one, 
the frail one, 
the one whose cries still sound 
like an abandoned kitten. 
she ties the infant to her body like 
the women of old; ties him 
to a body both broken and yet 
ox-strong, 
stealing moments here and there to sneak away 
to feed him in intimacy, 
like jesus sneaking 
from the crowds to pray. 

she knows by now 
the divinity inside her; she knows 
she has been entrusted with life and 
is able. 
she has found god in a baby before 
and knows how to do it again. 
in the dead of night she listens to 
her own breath rise and 
fall.
in the mid of day she envies 
the first timers 
who don’t yet know that to dwell in silence with a baby
is a luxury;
who don’t yet notice how short the hours are. 

she is asked to find god amid 
requests for television and demand for snacks, 
while her ankles are grabbed and belt loops pulled. 
here in this scene she 
cradles her infant. 
here in this scene she 
re-members god 
in her swollen breasts and tender perineum. 
a mother is born all over again, a graying-haired 
woman with god in her empty belly.

all the mothers i’ve been see the god-within-her and bow.

Me with my daughter, mom, and big sister (who, as every little sister knows, was my second mother for many years)

Motherhood is sacred; the oldest of the old magic. It’s a rite of passage, a spiritual pilgrimage, an invitation into the interior castle of oneself. Motherhood is just as much about a woman’s path of union with the Divine as it is about the child whose forehead she kisses as she treks.

And it is because I believe this so ferociously that I care very little about Mother’s Day.

Oh I observe it, don’t get me wrong. I get pedicures with my mama. I text my friends smothering affection for the way they too mother me. I take the free pass to nap all afternoon and find space on my altar for every wildflower my kids can pluck. But if Mother’s Day were to be erased from the calendar in one fell swoop, I would shrug and bid it good riddance.

After all, on a cultural level, as I wrote today in the National Catholic Reporter, Mother’s Day is honestly a joke in this country. A heaping slab of baloney. A steaming pile of poo.

But still, it’s here. And it just so happens I’ve written two books about motherhood so I might as well plug them, no? If you still need a gift for your mom or your baby mama — or you’re the mom and need to tell them what to get you, — Amazon can probably deliver my books Rewilding Motherhood or Feminist Prayers for My Daughter to you on time. *insert author’s hypocritically shaken fist at Jeff Bezos here*

I hope your weekend is lovely, I really do. I hope that somehow, some way, against all odds, you touch (even just for a second) the enormity of the universe that motherhood swallows, carries, delivers, loves into existence.

I’m not really sure what that means either, but let’s think about it all weekend, k?

Peace be with you,

Shannon

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Deborah Brasket
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May 12Liked by Shannon K. Evans

Beautiful! I too have been many mothers and now a grandmother, and while I believe it is a sacred thing, to be a mother, I don't believe it belongs only to women who give birth, but to all, male and female, who "mother" those around them, those they love, their family and friends and community and the earth. My daughter to her great regret lost her children in the womb. But now she mothers her niece who lives with her. Mother's day must feel sad to all those women who cannot give birth, or who chose not to, and yet "mother" every day with no recognition.

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Randall O’Brien
May 12Liked by Shannon K. Evans

I’ve read a little bit in my life, but I’ve never read anyone like you.

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